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Mar. 14th, 2009 03:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ezekielsdaughterRain today. In fact, this morning I ran out with the weed and feed spreader this morning to hit the front yard. If God is going to irrigate, I am not going to waste the opportunity. I must have looked a strange sight to cars going by: a woman in a rain poncho running a spreader up and down the yard. Still have to do the back yard.
I was re-reading Deborah Tannen’s book “You're Wearing THAT?:Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation” and got to the reminder of the difference in female and male relationship talk. Women relate problems orally in order to bond. (All of this is a bell curve. It doesn’t apply to everyone.) It occurs to me that all of my moaning about my workload to my coworkers this week has been that type of conversation. I don’t expect them to solve the problem. According to Tannen, I may be engaging in very destructive behavior because many men find “problem talk” to be a sign of weakness. In fact, I usually try to save that type of complaining for my paper diary. My diary has to serve as the understanding friend. However, this week has been horrendous. Three major projects, all with due dates this month. Actually, one due date was last month. I recall working on projects when I was younger: you would work 10 hours, go home, eat and come back and work until midnight. Here we are again, except that I can work from home now. In this economy, does one dare complain?
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And now, it is well after lunchtime. I have been sitting here since 10, reconciling bank statements. What an exciting life I have! It’s the first time for weeks that I’ve had time to do this type of work and it’s not even for me. I am working on the Sisterhood’s bank statements. After all, it’s Shabbat. I wouldn’t do work for myself. While sitting here, I’ve had a chance to listen to 4 of the 90-odd podcasts that are queued up for me.
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Before I go, I have to tell you what I’ve been listening to all week. Music finally came in from Israel. Some Idan Raichel to satisfy my need for meaningful pop music and the Diwan Project to satisfy my need for non-Ashkenazi Jewish religious music. Both have soothed my nerves over the past week and a half. I’ve embedded a youtube of IR before. Here’s one of the Diwan Project.
I was re-reading Deborah Tannen’s book “You're Wearing THAT?:Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation” and got to the reminder of the difference in female and male relationship talk. Women relate problems orally in order to bond. (All of this is a bell curve. It doesn’t apply to everyone.) It occurs to me that all of my moaning about my workload to my coworkers this week has been that type of conversation. I don’t expect them to solve the problem. According to Tannen, I may be engaging in very destructive behavior because many men find “problem talk” to be a sign of weakness. In fact, I usually try to save that type of complaining for my paper diary. My diary has to serve as the understanding friend. However, this week has been horrendous. Three major projects, all with due dates this month. Actually, one due date was last month. I recall working on projects when I was younger: you would work 10 hours, go home, eat and come back and work until midnight. Here we are again, except that I can work from home now. In this economy, does one dare complain?
…..
And now, it is well after lunchtime. I have been sitting here since 10, reconciling bank statements. What an exciting life I have! It’s the first time for weeks that I’ve had time to do this type of work and it’s not even for me. I am working on the Sisterhood’s bank statements. After all, it’s Shabbat. I wouldn’t do work for myself. While sitting here, I’ve had a chance to listen to 4 of the 90-odd podcasts that are queued up for me.
….
Before I go, I have to tell you what I’ve been listening to all week. Music finally came in from Israel. Some Idan Raichel to satisfy my need for meaningful pop music and the Diwan Project to satisfy my need for non-Ashkenazi Jewish religious music. Both have soothed my nerves over the past week and a half. I’ve embedded a youtube of IR before. Here’s one of the Diwan Project.
